"The Bliss Point"
Friday March 8, 2013
Whether you know it or not, most of us have a “bliss point” when it comes to food. This is the point at which we derive the greatest amount of pleasure from a food. It turns out that researchers have found that this bliss point is achieved by the proper combination of sugar, fat and salt.  A one-three punch if you will, that sends our brain’s pleasure centers into overdrive. Eating foods that contain a high level of all three ingredients makes us crave even MORE of the stuff. Chocolate is a classic example of one such high fat, sugar and salt food. But what’s even more shocking is that food manufacturers and restaurants engineer their foods to contain the exact mixtures of chemicals that will keep us eating more of what they’re selling. We don’t even stand a chance.

So with the food chemistry deck stacked against us, what are we to do? The simple answer is to avoid commercially processed foods and eat more whole foods, like organic fruit, vegetables and lean meats. After you’ve been off refined sugar for a while, your body loses its intense craving for sugar.

But what if the idea of giving up the most pleasurable drug (cookies, candy, ice cream) in our lives sends us into a tailspin of sadness and depression? How do we find the strength to avoid this onslaught of chemically-engineered addictive foods? We should take the opportunity to look inside ourselves and see why we’re turning to food for comfort and pleasure in the first place. When we deal with these feelings and no longer require certain foods to be happy, or rely on them to obtain pleasure out of life, it becomes easy to eat healthier. That’s the beauty of ThinStead - when you change your mindset, your behavior naturally changes.

Then bliss comes from inside you, instead of from your plate!

If you’d like to read more about the bliss point, here’s a great article: 



The True Secret to Weight Loss Motivation

Saturday, January 23, 2013

At certain points in their weight loss career (It does seem like a full time job sometimes, doesn’t it?), dieters will face a lack of motivation. In order to increase our motivation, it’s important to understand what really drives our motivations in the first place.

All human behavior is driven by wants and desires. That’s right, I said ALL. We only ever do that which we want to do. And before anyone starts arguing with me, let me prove it’s true with a few examples.

One very common example is people staying in a job they don’t like, year after year. You might say, “Aha! There’s a perfect example of people doing what they don’t want to do!” But I say that if we look a little deeper, we can see that the overriding desire behind their behavior is the desire for security, in the form of money. They don’t want to leave their job because they are afraid of what will happen if they do. So in this example, their desire for security is GREATER than their desire to leave their job. The truth is - they want security MORE.

Another example is when we want to stay home and watch our favorite movie, but our friend calls and asks us to drive her to the airport (You can substitute any other “favor” you might have been asked before in this example.). We don’t know how to say no, so we end up driving her to the airport. We do so because our desire for acceptance, to be liked, or to be seen as a “nice person”, wins out over our desire to stay home for a cozy evening in. We want to be liked MORE than we want to do something we find enjoyable.

The same is absolutely true for losing weight. Of course we want to lose weight. There’s no dispute about that. But the stark truth is that we want that cookie, brownie, or slice of pizza more. Because that food is fulfilling a deep need in our lives. That makes food very powerful if we want it more than we want our body to be healthy and fit, doesn’t it?

So the real secret to losing weight is to neutralize the power that food holds over us. It’s to make our desire for health and vitality GREATER than our desire for a slice of cake. The only way to do that, and to finally lose the weight for good, is to eliminate the subconscious needs that we’re trying to fill with food. We need to patch up the emotional holes that we’re trying to fill with food once and for all.

So ask yourself, “Which motivates me more today? Chocolate cake, or health and inner peace?” Because you’re always going to do whichever you want MORE.

That's the real secret to weight loss motivation!

The Weight Loss Revolution Will Not Be Televised
Saturday, December 29, 2012

All diets are bunk. That’s right. Deep down you know it’s true.

If you look closer you’ll see that diets are, by their very nature, doomed to fail. That’s because most people approach a diet as something that must be gotten through in order to achieve their goal weight, and then it can be discarded. People think they can shed their excess weight by simply starving themselves into submission a single time. But you and I know what really happens. After weeks of depriving yourself, the pressure to eat your favorite comfort food becomes unbearable, and then you explode in an orgy of bingeing on an entire pan of brownies! And pretty soon you're back to your old way of eating. That's why it's called yo-yo dieting.

In my own weight loss journey, I came to realize that no diet would ever make me lose the weight for good. I knew I had to dig in and really examine the reasons why I overate, craved comfort foods all the time, and disliked exercise in the first place. But that self-examination was definitely worth it. My own introspection combined with the latest in mind-body psychology techniques allowed me to do in a couple of weeks what I had been unable to do for over 20 years – change my thoughts and behavior surrounding food. It allowed me to change my mindset, and ultimately my lifestyle, so I could finally achieve permanent weight loss. The ThinStead process allowed me to shed 55 lbs – for good. It's amazing how much easier weight loss became for me once those voices in my head screaming for chips and chocolate were silenced.

But I believe it takes real courage to take a look at your life and examine the reasons why you overeat and avoid exercise. Unfortunately, not everyone has that kind of courage. So at this time of year, when our thoughts naturally turn to new year’s resolutions about dieting, I challenge you instead to commit to changing your beliefs and emotions surrounding food and exercise one final time. The secret to true weight loss success lies in making an internal change.
ThinStead makes weight loss easy - by helping you change from the inside out. Because if you change your mind, you can change your body, and ultimately - your life!

So why not make 2013 the year you lose the weight for good? Join the weight loss revolution today!

Boldly Go Where No Dieter Has Gone Before
Wednesday, November 28, 2012

My readers know how I feel about diets. They’re pure hokum. And yet they remain the most popular way to lose weight for millions of people. Why is that? Because diets aren’t the solution to your weight problem. At best they’re a band-aid. At worst, they’re a frustrating, money-sucking, nightmare of deprivation and rebound bingeing.

Think about it this way. If you took your car to a mechanic and he only fixed it temporarily, and you had to keep taking it back to him over and over for service, wouldn’t you fire him and find a new mechanic? One who had the solution to your problem? Sure you would! I think the reason diets are so popular is because people don’t realize there’s a better way. They truly believe that a diet will solve all their problems. In my experience though, yo-yo dieting solves nothing. I believe it takes real courage to take a look at your life and examine the reasons why you overeat and avoid exercise. Most people don’t have that kind of courage.

My appeal to you as we approach this New Year’s resolution season is to find your inner strength and make the decision to change your life for the better - permanently. I’m here to tell you it IS possible to overcome cravings and binge eating, and to begin enjoying exercise. All you have to do is examine your thoughts, emotions and beliefs about food, exercise and your life. The mental and written exercises in ThinStead are specifically designed to help you get at the root cause of your weight problems quickly. Your own self-reflection combined with these exercises will help you make rapid progress toward becoming a thin person. Because once you change your mind, changing your body is easy. You’ll no longer have to fight those voices in your head saying “just one more bite of cake!”

But even better than learning how to lose weight forever, are the other benefits I personally derived from going through the ThinStead process myself. I released my anxiety, sadness, and self-esteem issues, and uncovered the passion, purpose and zest for life that were buried deep beneath my fears. The person I am now is quite different from the person I was before – inside AND out. I'm grateful every day for finding the answer to my weight problems.

So why not make the new year different and decide for yourself to boldly go where no dieter has gone before? Why not give yourself the precious gift of a brand new life in 2013? Just ask yourself, “What would Captain Kirk do?”

Thankful For The Journey

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

There’s nothing like a national holiday for bringing things into sharp focus. Thanksgiving is especially great for that. Most of the time I’m so busy, I forget just how good I really have it. I’ve got a wonderful family. My mom and dad have been together 49 years and are still going strong. My sister Laurie and her husband Joe have been blessed with their first child. Rex is our miracle baby and will be turning one year old soon. He brings us all so much joy with his trusting blue eyes and radiant smile. Then there are my fabulous friends. We all share our dreams, lift each other up, and support one another. We have regular meetings of the ya-yas where we eat, drink and talk metaphysical shop. I’m also immensely grateful for my health and abundance. Not everyone is so lucky to enjoy such robust health. I also feel humbled to be able to share my healing and weight loss journey with the world. Because not only was I able to lose the weight which hung over me like a dark cloud for so many years and caused me to hide out from life, but the process of self-reflection also allowed me to release the negative emotions that were holding me back from fulfilling my God-given purpose, and experiencing true passion and zest for life. I consider my contribution to the world not to be so much about weight loss, as much as it is about helping people rediscover happiness and find fulfillment in life. I don't really need a special holiday, because I'm grateful every day to be able to change lives for the better one person at a time…

Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours!

Always Hungry For More

Monday, September 24, 2012

America is a hungry nation. In fact, our hunger seems to know no bounds. As a nation, we’re hungry for shiny cars, big houses, and designer clothes. We’re hungry for success, wealth and celebrity. And we’re hungry for FOOD. But all of the things we crave are just a way of trying to make ourselves happy. To fill us up somehow. To make us feel whole and complete. It’s the same way with food. We fill ourselves up with fast food, cakes, cookies, pizza, pasta, chips, sodas and chocolate. Our dinner portions, not just our value meals, have become Super Sized. And yet, no amount of comfort food or shopping therapy will heal what’s really eating us. It’s that hole deep inside of us where we’re dying to be loved that keeps us addicted to things and to food. And yet, if we simply have the courage to engage in some self-reflection and acknowledge that sadness, depression, anxiety, and grief percolating deep within our subconscious, we can release these needful feelings once and for all. And when we finally do release them, our “Hunger Games” will be over, and we will emerge victorious and free.

The Pleasure Principle

Friday, September 7, 2012

Okay, I finally get it. I was having trouble figuring out why anyone wouldn’t want to get rid of their food addictions and conquer their emotional eating and bingeing behavior. It’s FEAR. Plain and simple. Fear that you’ll have to be without your favorite foods. Fear that you’ll feel deprived. Fear that all the enjoyment will be stripped away from your life. Fear that you won’t enjoy food any more.

Phew! I’m glad we figured that out. Because I’m here to tell you that I still enjoy my food. In fact, I still enjoy eating very much. I do, however, have a greater appreciation for healthy foods. But I do still enjoy collecting recipes. Now I just look at them first to determine how healthy they really are before I decide to clip them or not. And I’m not going to lie, I still enjoy the occasional dessert, too

What HAS changed is that since I’m no longer eating in order to stuff down my emotions, I don’t have overwhelming cravings or have to fight compulsions to eat certain foods anymore. I also have better portion control and make healthier food choices. Plus, I no longer obsess about food and plan my next couple of meals in advance.

And if gaining control over my food choices and intake weren’t enough, there have been added benefits to having gone through the ThinStead process. Since releasing my trapped negative emotions, I’ve gained greater confidence and self-esteem, experienced increased happiness in my life and my relationships, and even achieved greater fulfillment and clarity in my career. ThinStead has helped me rediscover ME. It’s helped me blossom into the person I’ve always wanted to be. And I know it can do the same for you.

So, you see, you needn't be afraid of losing the one great pleasure in your life, because you’ll be gaining SO much more! I promise.

Why Jenny Craig Is A Millionaire 

Monday, September 3, 2012

The other day a friend suggested I approach a few major weight loss chains to incorporate my book into their programs. I thought about that for a while and then I realized that if their customers read ThinStead, the chains would lose all of their repeat business. The major weight loss chains, like Weight Watchers and Jenny Craig rely on sign-up fees, and sales of their prepared food products to make their millions! So, why would they WANT people to get over their food addictions? But you can choose to be free of yo-yo dieting today - by crushing your cravings and bingeing behavior. ThinStead can help you get there!

Not So Sensational After All
Friday, August 31, 2012

Hey guys, know what's in Sensa? The main ingredients on the packaging label are SUGAR and BONE ASH (Maltodextrin and Tricalcium Phosphate), and some spices thrown in for "flavor" and "aroma", called tastants. So any weight loss experienced is very likely placebo related and a result of YOUR OWN will power.

Wouldn't it be easier to deal with your food cravings directly?

When Your World Revolves Around Pizza
Tuesday, August 21, 2012

I hear a lot of people around me waxing eloquent about food. Some people will describe in detail how wonderful a new food or recipe is, and how good it tastes. I was very much the same way, I had collected thousands of recipes from Bon Appetite and Gourmet magazine over the years and put them in 3 ring binders in order of category and ethnicity, so I understand. Yes, food is wonderful. The tastes can be an amazing symphony of pleasure when they glide over your taste buds.

Unfortunately, for many of us who suffer from being overweight, food seems to be the main pleasure in our lives. For some of us, it seems like our ONLY pleasure. The comfort and enjoyment we derive from our favorite foods is something that we are unwilling to let go of. We can't even imagine a world without our chocolate, cookies, ice cream or chips.

But what if I told you it was possible to reach a place where food wasn't your main focus, and it no longer was your only way to derive pleasure from your life? It may be hard to imagine, but it is possible. A few years ago, I went on a journey of self-reflection. Using energy psychology methods, like EFT, I was able to pinpoint which negative emotions and experiences were driving my need for and attraction to specific foods, like pasta, bread and cheese.

Events in my life, and the way in which I was raised caused me to have an intense underlying anxiety and a need for love and affection. And I was trying to soothe these feelings with food. But that strategy never worked, and only led to a lot weight gain.

Thank God I discovered EFT, and it allowed me to quickly and permanently release these needful feelings once and for all. But not only did the process allow me to lose weight permanently and more easily than if I was trying to fight cravings, it also gave me my life back. Clearing away the fear, sadness, self-doubt, and low self-esteem has allowed me to blossom in ways I hadn't imagined. I'm happier, more self-confident, more goal directed and I look forward to the future.

But best of all, food is no longer the way I reward myself - and it's not my only pleasure. My pleasure now comes from creative and spiritual pursuits and nurturing relationships. Food is where it belongs now, at the periphery of my life - not in the center!

Food Is Not Love

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

Ever wonder why we crave certain foods? There’s a reason we turn to our favorite “comfort foods” when we feel sad, angry, anxious or depressed. They make us feel better – at least temporarily. The simple carbohydrates in chocolate and baked goods quickly spike blood sugar and boost the serotonin levels in our brain. That is, until we come crashing back down.

But our favorite foods are not only a way of soothing and comforting ourselves, sometimes we also use food for celebration or reward. Only when we learn how to stop eating for emotional reasons can we really reach a place of peace with food and achieve permanent weight loss. ThinStead helps you uncover the subconscious reasons behind your emotional eating and release them for good. Ask yourself, are you finally ready to make peace with food?


Show That Piece Of Cake Who's Boss

Saturday, August 04, 2012

I got to thinking about when I was a member of Weight Watchers back in the day. I can clearly remember going to the WW retail location and sitting in a room with a group of people who were all swapping recipes and tips on how to make low-calorie ice cream sandwiches and such. It seemed to me like they were all just trying to find a way to "legally" eat the junk food that they were addicted to - the comfort foods that made them feel happy.

I think most people approach dieting as something they have to "get through" in order to reach their goal weight. But when the diet is over, they go back to eating all the junk foods they ate before the diet. In order to maintain real permanent weight loss, we need to address the feelings and emotions that make us crave comfort foods in the first place.

ThinStead is a process that helps you release all the unhappiness, sadness and anxiety that cause overeating and helps you discover your happiness again. When you release these negative emotions, you ultimately become in control of what you choose to put into your mouth, not the other way around. I think emotional freedom is the real beauty of ThinStead. That's why I chose a beautiful butterfly woman as my logo.


Why Weight ?

Saturday, July 14, 2012

A friend sent me this photo. It's true, the number on the scale doesn't define us, or tell us that we're a beautiful being. It's just a number.

But if that number continues to increase every time we step on it, we may choose to see it as a signal that we're not loving ourselves completely, and choose to explore how food might be serving the purpose of self-soothing, reducing anxiety or an attempt to fill us up with love somehow.

Food can be fun. But too much of the wrong food can hurt us.

Take 2 Cookies And Call Me in the Morning
Thursday, June 2, 2012

This Tumblr picture caught my eye recently. I think it kind of describes how food addicts feel most of the time. You could just as easily substitute the word chocolate, cookies or chips for "burrito".

For emotional eaters, food is used as a tranquilizer, a mood enhancer, and even for celebration and reward. I used to use pasta and cheese mostly to get my high. But once I addressed all those sub-conscious, neglected emotions that were driving my urges and cravings and finally released them, I was set free for good. I can't even tell you how much happier I am now that food is no longer my drug of choice. My life has more enjoyment, meaning, fulfillment and zest.

What are you waiting for? When are you going to kick the habit too?